When it comes to resolutions, are you a chronic “goal-failer”?
By Jen Evanson | Pure Skincare Boutique
The concept sounds so appealing – to start
a year fresh by resolving to replace old,
adverse stuff with healthy new solutions
sounds simple, right? The idea is great, and
for a short time we are 100% committed to
our new endeavor…until we aren’t anymore
and this becomes painfully obvious when
we start making ridiculous excuses as to
why we can’t go to the gym today because ‘my dog looks tired and needs to
be snuggled’ or ‘no carbs on weekdays except pizza Wednesdays and
margarita Fridays’. Usually about 3-4 weeks after our initial gung
ho efforts, guilt creeps in and, we begin to slowly slide back into our
more comfortable, less beneficial habits. Let’s face it, sometimes life (or
margaritas) get in the way of sticking to our goals, but that’s totally okay
and here’s why:
Annual resolutions can feel like deciding to wear green every day for the
entire year. Why would we subject ourselves to such torture and leave out
the possibility to try out all the other colors of the rainbow? Some days we
won’t want to wear green at ALL so why beat ourselves up over it? Because
3 months ago we vowed to ourselves to commit to something? Who wants
to feel full of failure and guilt when that doesn’t happen? Ugh, gross. What
if the goal itself is too lofty and we’ve over-committed to an impossible
task? Maybe it’s more about the follow-through than the act itself. We
desperately don’t want to fail so we force ourselves to keep going and push
through, but for what? If it causes us such pain how can this be serving our
What if we try a new approach to goal setting that doesn’t set us up for failure:
Do what suits your mood for each day and allow yourself to go with the
flow. If you want to move your body, do it. If you’re exhausted and all you
want to do rest, bring on the sweatpants!
By relinquishing control and actually paying attention to how you feel you
may discover new color combinations all together that you never before
thought possible! Instead of resolving to confine yourself to one arduous
task that surely will not suit 365 continuous days, decide to be open and
take each day as it comes. Listen to both your body and heart and do one
thing each day to fulfill your desires. Then you’ll never feel as if you’ve
failed miserably, rather celebrated and deeply cared for because you’ve
been gentle with yourself.
Perhaps this year it’s all about changing up our resolutions to suit our
mood for the day, and instead of faulting ourselves for falling off the wagon
we simply reset and start fresh when necessary (because that will happen
We may find by honoring our daily desires we naturally
encourage ourselves to care more about our quality of life.
Now, every day can feel free and filled with opportunity for creativity, flow,
and newness. Let’s make this our year to change things up for the better!
Q: What’s your take on resolutions? Is there a concept that works (or
doesn’t work) for you? Leave a comment below and let’s talk about how we
can make 2015 our best year yet! As always, I love to hear feedback and I’d
also love for you to share this article with someone who needs to hear it.
Hop on over to my blog at jenforyou.com HERE and join the conversation.
With love & gratitude,
Jen Evanson (JenForYou)